(a whole lot) more on BMW Part 3

and finally, here's the conclusion of my very long article (article daw, oh!) about bmw...

so what are the things na pwede mong gawin kung may bmw ka and, as i said, hindi mo dapat inuuwi ang galit sa bahay mo?

in this aspect, marami kang pwedeng gawin. if you cannot face the person or a situation head on, try doing the following:

walk away from the person/situation – ito ang unang-una mong dapat gawin. let it pass. hayaan mong lumamig ang temper mo. palipas ka na lang ng galit. uminom ka ng isang basong tubig like what my friend raoul always says. saka ka mag-isip ng maayos. dahil totoo yong sinasabi nila na baluktot ang takbo ng utak mo pag galit ka. coz you ignore reason. ang energy mo, focused doon sa galit mo and you don’t think clearly. you say and do things na hindi mo dapat ginawa or sinabi. and remember, pag nasa isang laban ka, never say or do anything that you will say sorry for later. look at it as a war na pag ikaw ang nag-sorry, talo ka. kaya ingat ka not to be the one to apologize later.

analyze the situation. kung tama ka, pat yourself on the back dahil hindi ikaw ang asshole sa sitwasyon. kung ikaw naman ang mali, then work hard para hindi na maulit yon. otherwise, bubonic plague (read: bobo) ka na if you repeat the same mistake twice. at kung hati lang kayo ng kaaway mo – meaning partly tama ka pero mali din, then work harder. dahil ibig sabihin non may mali ka pa rin. and getting it half right is just as bad as getting it all wrong.

magpaka-philosophical. tulad nga ng sabi ko sa isang kaibigan, rise above the situation. put yourself above it. because if you put these people and these situations beneath you, then you have just elevated yourself to a higher form of existence. sobrang lalim ba? to make it simple, tingnan mo ang mga presidente ng bansa at mga ceo ng malalaking companies, they are so cool and composed. hindi mo sila pwedeng galitin basta-basta. kasi hindi na sila pumapatol sa mga trivial na bagay. they deal with bigger, grander things. which means, kung magpapa-apekto ka sa mga maliliit na bagay sa trabaho mo, hindi ka president o ceo material. you’re doomed to remain a sorry, lowly worker forever. so strive to be someone greater. kahit hindi ka maging president or ceo, at least you’ve become a bigger person inside yourself.

find a group. kung hindi mo talaga matiis na hindi ka dadakdak to somebody else, wag mong gawin sa friends or family outside your work. find someone within your work at sya/sila ang gawin mong shock absorber. at least madali syang maka-relate sa mga bmw mo. pero wag ka namang maglagay ng banner na “wanted, kakampi sa crusade against my jerk na amo”. be subtle. makiramdam ka lang. pag sa tingin mo nakakita ka ng kakampi, cultivate him as your confidante. at pag pareho na kayo ng wavelength, dito mo i-vent ang galit mo. magpalitan kayo ng pag-katay sa taong kinamumuhian nyo pareho. pero ingat ka lang kasi baka bumaligtad yang kakampi mo, pwedeng-pwede ka nyang ilaglag anytime.

the bash! hindi yong program ni boy abunda at cristy fermina huh. kung iba-bash mo ang taong kagalit mo, stay away from personal attacks. tandaan mo na kahit anong galit mo sa isang tao, you do not have the right to bash him/her on personal level. stay within bounds of work related issues. sabi nga, trabaho lang, walang personalan. if you stick on it, kahit saang korte kayo makarating, malaki ang laban mo.

ngayon, after you’ve tried all of the above and nothing worked, kung hindi mo talaga mapigil ang inis/galit mo, maghanap ka na ng karton. yes, carton boxes. kasi kailangan mo yan para lagyan ng mga gamit mo. coz you’ll definitely get your ass kicked dahil hinulog mo sa bintana yong office mate mo or binuhusan mo ng mainit na kape ang boss mo! pack your things and run! hehehe!

so bmw? ok lang yan. nasa iyo na kung paano mo sasakyan. huwag lang na ikaw ang masakyan. don’t let your bitching, moaning and whining get the better of you. talo ka pag ganon.